Friday, December 4, 2015

About Being a Mother

I am a mother since more than seven months now...

...can you believe that? I sometimes have a hard time... today I want so share some thoughts on this topic with you.

My little girl is sleeping right next to me at this moment, I try to type without noise so that I am not going to wake her up. She is sleeping really good since the first day, we never had a hard time with sleepless nights with her. Thats not the only thing I was surprised about. Before becoming a mother, I thought this is a really difficult, exhausting and enervating job. I found out that its not. Its rather the most normal thing ever, from the first day on. The moment I became a mother I simply WAS a mother and thats it. It was the most normal thing and life continued...

Did I change? Did my life change? Sure, I am a mother now, no longer only friend/sister/wife/cousin/etc. but also mother. But to be honest - I am not sure if I really changed that much. I feel like I am doing the same things as before, blogging, seeing friends, working (a little), cooking, travelling (to Iran with my little one) washing clothes (and cotton diapers now) and spending time with my husband. Plus I spend some time with my baby now, of course, but somehow its like a good friend who is there every day, making your day a little brighter but not asking for too much attention. Of course things changed but I do not really feel it too much since the current state is just the norm for me. I feel its normal not to go out at night and I do not really miss it. I feel its normal that I carry my little one with me to the supermarket when I go grocery shopping and I do not complain about it. I feel its normal to lay down every three- four hours with the little one to feed her and to make her sleep, and I enjoy those little breaks. 

I never asked people from the outside if they think that I changed. Maybe I should. Maybe they see things completly different and they think I changed a lot, being a mother now. But for me - I think I just AM. Thats it.

However, having changed or not, I definetly can say that I love being a mother. It makes me proud. I am proud of what I am able to do - making an entire new human being! I am proud of that its ME feeding this little angle, it is ME making her grow and getting bigger and heavier every day. It was ME who carried her for nine months and it is me now carrying her every day close to my heart. This makes me proud and this gives me more confidence for life in general. So in this context, yes I changed and I am perceiving a few things differently - myself between others. 

What about my relationship to my husband? 
I know many couples face loads of problems when they get children. And I feel very sorry for them. I think it is sad that something as beautiful, wonderful and perfect as a little baby is causing problems in some relationships, even destroying some. I am very very grateful that the relationship to my husband is as wonderful as it ever was - no actually, it is even more beautiful. Because every day we can see the result of our love. This little human being was made by the two of us. This is miraculous. This is simply amazing. And we are grateful for this every day.  
We do have time for the two of us, we go for walks together several times a week, we watch a movie together on the sofa once a week, we sit down together to drink tea and talk very frequently and we are always able to discuss everything that is currently bothering us. In a nutshell, our relationship really is as profound and wonderful as it ever was. Our baby did not change this but rather deepened our feelings.  

I know that I am not alone, feeling the way I feel about being a mother, but I also know that there are many women out there feeling very differently. Actually, most women I know, complain that they do not have enough time for themselves, because their husbands are busy earning money or doing other things. I can understand these women and I feel sorry for them because they are not able to enjoy the most precious time they can have with their babys, because they are focusing on the fact that they do not have enough time for themselves. I know that I am in a very very fortunate situation because my husband can help me a lot but even if he wasn't, I think that this time that I have with my little one is worth much more than ANYTHING else. Maybe I am conservative and boring but I am okay with that because I am happy. And in the end I think the most important is to be happy :)

Are you a mother? How do you feel about being a mother? How was the first year with your baby? I really would love to know!  


  1. Being a mother must be such a wonderful experience! I'm not a mother yet but I want to be one in the future. Thanks for sharing this lovely experience with us. Have a great weekend!


  2. Hi Larissa! It's been a while, I hope you are having a wonderful start to December!

    What a beautiful post. SO well-written! I follow many blogs of mothers and can't help but wonder what that life is like. I love how you said this, "The moment I became a mother I simply WAS a mother and thats it." So simple, and yet a great explanation. I loved reading about how your life has changed (I suppose, not really changed but you know what I mean.) Your little daughter seems as sweet as can be. Hugs!

    ♥ perfectly Priya

  3. I'm not a mother and I can't imagine myself being a one XD I use my free time for my stories and novels and they are as my children, so... this it how I feel) But I'm glad you enjoy this experience!

  4. Ohn darling, thanks a lot :D

    OMG, so cute!!! You're a great mother. Absolutely :D

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  5. Hi my dear Rosa!!!!
    it was a great pleasure for us too!!! I was so so so happy!!!
    You really are a great person, and I'm happy you are in my life! :)
    Blogging is great!
    Here everything is the, laundry, grocery shop...but it doesn't matter, I think that I really have some great things in my life, and I become happy again! (I'll change my work in the future ;))
    Have a great weekend my dear!!!
    and give a kiss to your wonderful Nila! :)

  6. Loved reading this post. You're amazing, what a positive experience.

  7. This post made me very happy! Motherhood is not to be dreaded after all!!!!! Glad u r enjoying it!

  8. Such a beautiful seem to be very happy =) just enjoy your beautiful new baby.
    Honestly really liked reading this post..
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  9. This is such a beautiful post! I feel like there seems to be such much negativity out there with raising a child, that it has made me very nervous to ever have one. But reading things like this is just so positive and I hope when I have a baby I will be just as positive and happy as you are.

  10. Aw this is the most amazing thing of our life, i hope soon that happens to me too! Great and beautiful post!

  11. Oh you are so sweet dear!!! *-* Reading this post moved me!
    I'm not a mother yet but I would like to become one day!! ^-^
    Happy Sunday!

  12. Aaaah, that is so lovely and beautiful!


  13. Ach wie süß, die Bilder sind ganz wundervoll!

    Liebe Grüße
    Jimena von

  14. you wrote really beautiful message there!
    and I hope you're gonna be happier and happier! enjoy your moments <3


  15. what a lovely post my dear, the pictures are amazing, simply amazing
    lovely :)

    with love your AMELY ROSE

  16. Liebe Larissa,
    ich freue mich so, dass es Dir so gut geht als Mutter - ich bin ja schon immer davon überzeugt, dass Du das mehr als gut machst und Deine Tochter in jeglicher Hinsicht davon profitiert. Du weißt ja, dass bei mir das ein wenig anders ist und von dem her war es absolut interessant und herzerwärmend zu lesen, wie es Dir als Mutter geht. Ich wünsche Euch weiterhin von ganzem Herzen alles Gute!
    Liebe Grüße von Rena

  17. Thanks so much for sharing. I worry about being another and if I will be able to do it, so I am so happy to hear it's natural.

    Amy Ann
    Straight A Style

  18. Such a beautiful post! So great to hear that you are still doing the things you love but now with your little one!

    <3 Shannon
    Upbeat Soles

  19. Fantastic post dear! Hope you have a lovely day.

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  20. Beautiful post dear. I love being a mother too and I feel like I haven't changed either and if I did I feel like I changed for the better. Just looking at my daughter makes me so proud :)


  21. Oh Gosh, I've got tears in my eyes, you really moved me with that post and to be honest I hope I will be able to say the same one day. actually I think I'm getting more and more ready for being a mom but my only consern is our home budget. It is so sad that we have to worry about it in order to decide about being a parent, but I guess its just hard time politically in Europe and many young marriages have this problem to not afford a baby...But still I want to have at least one and I have to have it:)I would be so happy being a mom and I think I would also love it if it was my full time job, just being at home rasing kids. Beautiful pics! Have a nice evening, hugs:)

  22. What an interesting, valuable report. It seems that motherhood isn't the same for everyone. Thanks for sharing.

  23. Larissa! Long time no talk, I made a little update on my blog and couldn't wait to pop over and read how things have been going for you! I absolutely loved reading this post and found it the most honest, insightful, loving account that one could write about such a significant (and precious) change happening in their life. This was written beautifully and so elegantly. It is wonderful to hear that you are reveling in your new life as a mother. You are an inspiration :) Thank you for your wise words!

    xoxo, Alyssa

  24. such a touching post, and thank u for asking me to have a peek at this one. Sorry for a very late response. I enjoy motherhood too. Practically for me since schooling takes some extra time , and that my daughter wants to sleep with me all the time, my husband has to practically move to another room.But that doesn't mean I don't share any quality time with him. rather it has lengthened our conversations and laughs and everything about our daughter. I love ur spirit, infact the first year is a breeze.But every year needs to be cherished and am doing just that.
    Cheers to motherhood (folded palms too ) and that we are blessed with being mothers for eternity.


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